Deployments are hard, I don't think it's any surprise to anyone that I say that Michael and I, in the beginning of our relationship had a hard time finding a way to communicate effectively with each other. It was one of the biggest problems in our relationship (there were others, but I really think this was one of the biggest). It was a little easier once we got married, but when he deployed, our way of communicating changed drastically. We talk things out more, we have to. We bond over talking more, and I, since before Michael joined the army tried very hard to change the way I handle mis-communications and arguments. I was used to yelling when in a disagreement but it doesn't work well with Michael, so I've trained myself to keep my voice low and calm and I've succeeded. I still have work to do when it comes to negativity, but I'm proud at what I've accomplished. I also try VERY hard not to bring up past arguments either, which is a VAST improvement from when we were teens.
I think our deployments actually helped our marriage become stronger, and while it's really hard, being without my husband I am glad we were able to find some good with such a bad situation.